Caregivers Set BoundariesPosted on June 5, 2014 by ElderCare Resources in Blog, Caregiver Education, Education, Respite Care
Establish Boundaries when You Begin Elder Care
You’re taking on the role of an elder care provider. Whether it’s for your mother or father, or for someone else, you want to establish boundaries. There are going to be plenty of things that the elderly patient will need, and there will also be plenty of things that they can still do for themselves..
Lay down the timeframe.
If you’re only going to be available for the elderly individual in the evening, after your regular job, for one or two hours, three days a week, then set that as your time boundary. If the senior requires something when you’re at work or has an emergency, such as having fallen and become injured, that’s one thing. But if they are struggling to make something to eat for lunch, can’t find where they put something, or any other non-emergency situation, it will have to wait or they will need to call on someone else.
If you don’t establish a time boundary, you will end up finding yourself going over to help them at all hours of the evening, morning before you head to work, and sometimes even taking time off to get over to their house.
Establish boundaries on what you will do for them.
When you establish boundaries on the level of assistance you will provide, it will keep you from doing too much. It’s easy to want to do things for someone who may have difficulty with them, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t do them.
Let them know that you will support them, but that you’re not going to do everything for them, either.
If you fail to establish these boundaries when you begin elder care, the quality of care will suffer and even though you may have the best of intentions, you could find that you actually do harm for them. Set the boundaries by talking to the senior so that you both fully understand what to expect with elder care.
By: Dave Kellogg