6 Things Long-distance Caregivers Need To KnowPosted on December 30, 2014 by ElderCare Resources in Blog, Caregiver Education, Caregiving
Elder Care: Long-distance caregiving
By Karen Maslow
Are you a caregiver?
Caregivers include not only the people who provide hands-on care, but also those who perform any of the tasks that an individual cannot complete independently.
Caregiving tasks often fall on the family member who lives closest to the individual needing care. Family tensions sometime can develop toward those who live farther away and are perceived as unable to participate.
Those living farther away may develop feelings of guilt or anxiety when they want to provide assistance, but aren’t sure what to do. Successful sharing of caregiving responsibilities between local and distant caregivers is possible, and can help reduce some of the stress of the primary caregiver.
The first step to long distance caregiving is an understanding of the individual’s situation and needs. Schedule a visit with the individual that spans several days to observe how the person makes decisions, solves problems and completes daily tasks, as well as the roles of any other caregivers. Many needs and malfunctions can be covered for a couple of hours during a short visit, but the observation of overall daily functioning for a couple of days in a row may reveal significant differences from verbal reports an individual might provide.
Speaking with other family members, neighbors and friends about their observations of and communications with the individual also can help provide a more complete picture of reality. Researching the individual’s medical diagnoses and medications will promote an understanding of how chronic conditions and their treatments may affect the current and future level of functioning of an individual.
Is someone living nearby currently providing some assistance with care? Talk with this caregiver and find out if additional help is needed or wanted, and what specific tasks are open for negotiation. Good intentions can create bad feelings, and misunderstandings easily can occur when assumptions are made about the caregiver or recipient of care by someone who desires to “help.”
Some suggestions as to what types of assistance a long-distance caregiver can contribute:
• Emotional support for the care recipient is valuable. A routine telephone call to the individual can help promote social engagement and a sense of connection despite physical distance.
• Emotional support for the caregiver is vital. Regular contact with the caregiver reinforces your interest in the situation and allows an opportunity for the caregiver to vent frustrations, share successes and ask for assistance to problem-solve. Remember to express appreciation routinely and offer reassurance when needed. Avoid “second-guessing” the primary caregiver.
• Coordinate visits so you can attend medical appointments or so the primary caregiver can take time off for vacation or personal needs.
• Financial management is an activity that can be handled regardless of physical proximity. A long-distance caregiver can arrange and monitor online bill payments, manage banking and insurance needs, complete tax returns and more.
• Online research of medical issues, identification of local resources for the individual and caregiver, checking equipment needs, comparing costs for professional care (if needed), and investigating types and eligibility requirements of various public benefit programs are examples of assistance that may be helpful as a way to share caregiving tasks.
• Communication coordination can be provided from a distance. Do numerous family members and friends desire regular updates? Being the main point of contact can help prevent a primary caregiver from having to repeat the same information multiple times when a change in condition occurs.
The National Institute on Aging has numerous publications that contain valuable information for both local and long distance caregivers. Visit www.nia.nih.gov and click on “Health & Aging” and “Publications.”
Whether you are just beginning or are a seasoned caregiver, the complexity of caregiving can be overwhelming. These free resources can help families understand the emotions and practical issues of caregiving, and begin to get organized.
Now is an opportune time to think about these issues and reduce the chances of a caregiving crisis in the new year.
Published: The Sentinel.